What to Do When You’ve Lost Your Love of Performing
You started a career in the performing arts because you loved it. Yet, for many performers, there comes a time when the passion that once fuelled their craft dims, leaving behind a void—a feeling of falling out of love with the very art form that once defined them.
I understand from first hand experience how hard and confusing this can feel. It forces you to question your identity and purpose.
There are various reasons for falling out of love with performing–burnout from relentless schedules, constant physical, mental, emotional and financial pressures, artistic stagnation, or personal struggles that spill into our professional lives. What remains is a sense of detachment and disillusionment.
So, what should a performer do when they find themselves standing at this crossroads, grappling with the truth that their love for performing has faded?
Acknowledge Your Feelings
The first step is acknowledging and accepting these emotions. It's okay to feel lost or disconnected from something that once defined you. This industry has a "leave it all at the door culture," so it is understandably difficult to admit that you are having these emotions. But recognising this shift is absolutely crucial to addressing the underlying causes.
Reflect on Your Journey
Take a moment to reflect on your journey as a performer—the milestones you achieved, and the challenges you overcame. Revisiting these memories might remind you of what drew you to this art form in the first place.
Explore New Horizons
Be honest with yourself here. Is your loss of passion because it is time for you to move on? Career evolution is a completely normal and necessary part of life. Consider exploring different career paths in the performing arts or adjacent fields. Sometimes, a shift in perspective or engaging in a different aspect of the arts—be it directing, teaching, or exploring a different genre—can rekindle your excitement and uncover untapped career paths.
Reconnect with Creativity
Engage in creative endeavours outside the realm of performance. Whether it's painting, writing, or music composition, tapping into different creative outlets can spark your creativity and offer a fresh perspective on your craft.
Seek Support and Guidance
Don't navigate this journey alone. Seek support from mentors, fellow performers, coaches, or professionals who understand the challenges of the industry. Their insights and experiences might offer guidance and reassurance as you navigate this transitional phase.
Embrace Self-Discovery
Use this period as an opportunity for self-discovery. Explore hobbies, interests, or activities that resonate with you. Understanding yourself beyond the confines of performing can lead to a deeper understanding of your desires and aspirations.
Practice Self-Care & Grounding Techniques
Prioritise self-care—physically, emotionally, and mentally. Really embrace the joy of taking care of yourself, nurturing your well-being, and fostering a healthy balance between your professional and personal life.
Allow Time for Healing
Understand that healing and rediscovery are journeys, not instant transformations. Allow yourself the grace and patience to navigate this period of exploration and renewal without imposing undue pressure or expectations.
Ultimately, falling out of love with performing doesn't diminish your worth as an artist or as an individual. It's a transformative phase that presents an opportunity for growth, self-reflection, and the potential for a renewed connection with your craft.
Remember, growth isn't a linear journey. It is normal for your career path to take twists and turns, but every step forward is a testament to your resilience as a human being.
I encourage you to embrace this transition with an open heart, because on the other side of it is a meaningful connection with yourself—one that is deeper, more authentic, and enriched by the wisdom you have gained as an artist.
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